So You Want to Be a Wota
Okay so an anon on my formspring asked if I could make like a general guide to wota, I guess. If you somehow thought I have ever been to a concert or a party with wota I haven’t anon. I’m not a social butterfly either. However I have learned a lot being a wota and I think I can put that into some sort of guide to help newer wota. If you are awkward I can’t help you there, it’s just the way you are. If this isn’t what you wanted I am sorry for failing you anon but I hope you at least can see that I tried and had the best intentions.
Being a wota
I think when you realize you are a wota it’s only natural to wonder if you are crazy. You spend a lot of your time stalking teenage girls and if you are anything like me I was never ever obsessed with something to that extent until I discovered Momusu which makes it even harder to accept. I had a hard time but I decided I wasn’t crazy. In my opinion crazy ones are obsessed to the point where it’s not healthy. When a wota feels like they own the girls that’s when they are crazy. I know when to pull back and take a step into reality. I can spend hours upon hours each day speaking about idols but really it’s about how you do it although I don’t deny that I am obsessed.
You do not own the girls. You do not deserve to see a girl more than others. You are not so and so’s biggest or only fan. You should not ruin events for others because of your need to see your favourite idol. It’s fine to fantasize about them being your friend, daughter, spouse or lover but you should understand it will never happen and that they don’t care about you or see you as anything more than a fan. You should never wish a girl any harm if she breaks her character and has a boyfriend. If you think you do then yeah you are crazy.
When you become a wota you don’t want to be one of those crazy jerks. What I define as a wota I want to be and a wota who I want to be around is a well adjusted wota that has basic social skills. You should be able to joke. A sense of humour is extremely important to me because people who take everything too seriously are annoying and getting worked up about someone’s opinions on a non-serious thing like idols is stupid.
If you have ever watched Hello! Party fancams(please don’t if you haven’t) or whatever it is like the most depressing thing ever and most of those people are useless and need help/alcohol because they can’t communicate. Those people are the worst and I don’t know how some of them didn’t run out the door because that was so awkward to watch and I can’t even begin to imagine how embarrassing it was to be there. Although I guess most wota are fucked up in some way which is why we do what we do. Still I wouldn’t hang out with losers who are super uptight and boring IRL. I would rather be by myself than deal with that. Okay so I was going to publish this before the Berryz thing but then personal issues got in the way and I felt bad slamming Hello Party. Maybe it was going to be different this time, right? I know that’s like saying maybe Sayumi will be a good singer one day but still I want to believe.
Man that place is the saddest place in the world. Fine if you go there and are happy but I’m not going to pretend like I can understand why a person could be happy there. Now again some of you probably have to think I have to go there but fuck no I don’t. I have been to many a party in my life and since I act like everyone’s psychologist I am good at reading people and situations. If I find it awkward from watching a video how awkward is it to actually be there?
So anyway I wasn’t going to watch it because I had a feeling it would be just as fail as previous years. But my friend linked me and I caved. A wota party sounds like a great idea in theory but it fails in actuality. Nevertheless I keep hoping that one time it will be less embarrassing but that never happens. Nope. It was the same old thing. 4 people dancing to idol dances(badly) and the rest of the people just watching in awe at the fact that some people weren’t afraid to draw attention to themselves and interact with others. In fact the most interesting part was looking at some girl’s ass and watching her freak out later because the rest of it was putting me to sleep. I’ve seen my grandma have a livelier party.
If you were there and had a good time, that’s great. I’m not going to take that away from you. I’m not saying people can’t enjoy it. I’m just saying it’s lame.
This has gotten off-topic, oop.
Dealing with being a wota IRL
I think the trouble with being a wota is it gets lonely. If you are a fan of Star Wars you can find a friend or maybe get someone into it. In fact with most hobbies you will be able to find someone who shares your interest in it. Chances are your IRL friends won’t give a shit about mediocre pop music sung by little girls. Plus not only that but most people can not understand why the hell you would choose to listen to a foreign group who speaks and sings in a language that you can’t understand. Even if they listen to operas sung in foreign languages for some reason they cannot accept that you like weird Japanese shit. Somehow it just doesn’t register to them that music is universal and that you don’t have to understand someone to know how their smile makes you feel.
I think after a while you just have to accept loneliness irl. Or not loneliness but feeling incomplete or unsatisfied. You might have friends irl but they don’t make you feel happy the way your online wota friends do. I have tried to change my friends when I was younger and that was a mistake. What I have realized is that even if you have similar interests with your friends and they are the biggest weeaboos it doesn’t mean they are wota. It’s the worst thing to try to change them. They are who they are and no matter how hard you try to change them it won’t work if they don’t want it. You would only be annoying your friends and getting yourself upset.
At the same time I’ve learned that it’s best not to treat idols like they are wrong and hide away the fact that you like them. I used to treat and of my goods like they were porn and hide them away. Okay so you do like something that most people don’t like and it is/appears to be highly sexual in nature but letting someone make you feel ashamed or that you should give up idols isn’t right. You are doing what makes you feel happy and if anyone harasses you a lot to give it up they don’t know you well enough and certainly don’t care about you. Now like I said previously I’m not saying you should flaunt your wota-ness. It takes a balance.
What’s best to do is not force your friends/whoever to like idols but not to hide that you like idols as well. If you have your iPod on and are listening to idol music and they ask what you are listening to you say what you are listening to. In any circumstance don’t feel bad or like you have to hide it and don’t let people make you feel bad. I’ve spent too long trying to hide who I was(poorly) for fear of rejection but if someone loves you they won’t reject you so I really, really stress this as I would have loved to hear this when I was younger and felt truly alone. You are who you are. Don’t change it. Even if you are feeling alone and alienated right I promise that someday you will meet someone who appreciates you just the way you are.
Meeting other wota/socializing with your own kind
Once you accepted that you are a wota and realize that IRL won’t bring friends(well in your case it might, idk)and you want to discuss your idols you’ll probably look for other wota. Just because they are wota doesn’t mean that you will get along with them though. I absolutely hate and am annoyed by quite a few and they probably feel the same about me. Anyway these are the type of people I deal with everyday:
If you here the words stan and flawless you better run the other way because you’ve just encountered one of these idiots. They act like teenagers and crave validation.
Casual fans(not technically wota but they exist so I’ll include them)
The ones that like a group but don’t want to or don’t have the time to learn more about the group. They just want to listen to the music and stare at the pretty girls and have a life, not know every detail of the group.
Connoisseurs of idols fans
These are the people who are more experienced in certain fields and over analyze those aspects in the idol community. Often times they are elitists because they believe they know better than every one else.want to or don’t have the time to learn more about the group. They just want to listen to the music and stare at the pretty girls and have a life, not know every detail of the group.
AKB is not sexual hurr durr. H!P is popular. Idols don’t date.
I don’t know what the fuck to call these people because they are always flip-flopping. They seem to think you can only like one group at a time. First they are fans of H!P but then it sucks and then go over to the AKB fandom. They’ll constantly complain about H!P even though they aren’t fans of it any more until they reach a point where they pretend they don’t care. Anyway AKB is the best and so H!P doesn’t matter. Now that AKB is boring they seem to be coming back over to the H!P fandom and even like some of the 9th and 10th gen Momusu girls now!!! They were always a true H!P fan(well except for those few years where they were too busy stanning AKB and insulting H!P but they won’t admit that)and love H!P more than anything.
Oh hi, AKB stans. The type of people who will look down on you for not knowing every detail about a group or getting into a fandom later. If you don’t know of every girl’s existence you are dead to them. Oh and don’t dare call yourself a fan because you’re not.
Know it all fans
Chances are they are newer fans or at least ignorant but they think they know it all. Insufferable and the most annoying in my opinion. The kind who’ll state wrong facts acting like they are right(they’re not) and then get mad when someone corrects them because they are always right no matter what. They have problems and can’t take criticism so they try to be perfect but instead they just look like an ass spewing falsities.
New fans(also not technically wota but they exist so I’ll include them)
Probably don’t know the names of the girls and can’t tell them all apart because they look alike. Don’t know all of the songs and don’t understand events you reference because they really don’t know anything yet. They just know they like a particular group. Still most of these people are harmless. Because they haven’t had time to develop into what annoying type of wota they will be.
Nice guy fans
They will do anything to make you believe they are a nice guy. I don’t know why. I think it’s because in the community females exist and so to be a nice guy they pretend they don’t like the girl idols like that. They will often refer to the idols as their friends or that they admire them but female wota don’t fall for that and we all know that’s bullshit especially if you run a tumblr where you solely post pictures of girls in bikinis. It’s creepier when you pretend that you’re asexual, trust me.
Only like one girl. If that girl leaves they will probably abandon the fandom and then complain about how they aren’t included in the fandom anymore.
In it for the ass. They like girls in bikinis. Probably won’t be able to tell you if a song is a new release or an old song because they don’t listen to the music much.
Again you aren’t always going to find a new awesome friend everyday and you’ll have to deal with a lot of shitheads like you do IRL but whatever you’re probably used to that. In my opinion the people that I’m really good friends with I didn’t just meet them in like a light went off in my head and we were bffs forever. No, that takes time. In fact the people that I’m good friends with often times were the ones who I thought I would not be good friends with. A lot of times they scared me actually because beforehand I admired them and was intimidated by them. You can be soulmates with someone but again it won’t happen right away. At first both of you will be awkward and unsure.
If you are going to any sort of anime convention to see idols I highly suggest that you avoid Hello Party/public get-togethers if you can. No one who is fun would be there. I know you want to meet people but that is not the way to go. At least if you are going there find someone decent and run away with them before you die of embarrassment.
What I would suggest is going on a site and asking who is going and finding friends from them. You’ll probably be awkward irl so of you know their true selves it’ll be better because you know eventually they’ll be that person. If you don’t then I think the best thing to do is to wear something Hello Project or whatever idol group you like(Keep in mind the context. If you are going to wear an AKB shirt to an event that is full of H!P fans who mostly hate AKB fans and AKB helped lead to H!P’s downfall that’s probably not a good idea. If you are stupid enough to do that you deserve what you get.) so people can look at you and see that you like idols. Most people who stan whoever will be just as lonely and sad as you. I bet that some will be screaming for attention and would love if you gave them it. So if you see someone like this just send them a compliment or bond through common interests “You like Haruka the best ?! I do too!” That way you can easily break the awkwardness and find out if you them or not.
Accepting that you are a wota
I’m just going to take a stab in the dark and say that most wota are social rejects. It’s probably not that hard to see. Or at least that we use idols to escape our shitty lives. I think that’s fine. For me it’s no different than watching Dancing with the Stars or whatever normal people are supposed to do. Humans have created so many great things that now we don’t need to spend many hours a day doing things that will keep us alive. We have free time. We have to do something with that free time. I choose to be a wota. I’ve been one for so many years now and it truly is the best thing in the world to me. I love everything about the idol world. It’s who I am and it took years for me not to be ashamed of it but I’m finally there. I’m not going to change myself to make others happy.
However if you’re not happy being a wota, you should change that. Sometimes you might like idols because they give you everything you want. If you want a girlfriend, they give you that. They can make you feel special and loved. I’m not saying it’s particularly bad because without idols I don’t know where I would be. I think though that if you are sad that you can’t accomplish whatever in life and mask it with idols, you should stop. You will never ever be happy with your life if you ignore and don’t fix the problems you have with it. Since idols are very healing there might come a point when you have a life and you don’t need them and I think that’s fine as well. This is so preachy lmao but I’ve met lots of people like this who have these problems. Basically whatever makes you happy, do it. If happiness to you is having a life, go get that life. And if mediocre pop music sung by little girls makes you happy then keep being a wota.