Jpop Sucks~
Since Taku Takahashi is not a 13 year old girl I’ll admit I do not know much about him. I know he was/is?(I don’t know) a member of m-flo which I know very little about. I’ve never explored their music that much but I have liked the songs I have heard. I don’t know why the hell I haven’t listened to them more but I’m not going to pretend like I do when I don’t. What I gather from people who I surround myself with is that m-flo is amazing and I don’t know if Taku was good at one point in his career but now his music is atrocious. So then comes everyone saying he is pressed that he is a flop. Personally I can’t judge.
If you missed it tune into his twitter @takudj because he’s always complaining about how Japanese mainstream music sucks and that the Korean music scene is better. Grab some popcorn. You’ll have a great time.
I think he brings up valid points actually. I’m probably the only person but whatever. How much his music sucks if it does has almost nothing to do with what he is saying and if you remove him from the situation it’s easy to understand what he is saying. Is he pressed? Probably but like I said he does make legit points and it’s understandable why he would be annoyed.
When I look at the Japanese music industry, Il ook at who sells the most and this will probably come as a huge shock to people so brace yourselves it’s 48 groups and Johnny’s. I’m not even joking.
2010 Yearly Single Ranking
1. “Beginner” – AKB48 : (954,283)
2. “Heavy Rotation” – AKB48 (713,275)
3. “Troublemaker” – Arashi : (698,542)
4. “Monster” – Arashi : (696,022)
5. “Ponytail to Shushu” – AKB48 : (659,959)
6. “Hatenai Sora” – Arashi : (656,343)
7. “Løve Rainbow” – Arashi : (620,057)
8. “Chance no Junban” – AKB48 : (596,769)
9. “Dear Snow” – Arashi : (591,207)
10. “To be free” – Arashi : (516,142)
11. “Love yourself~Kimi ga Kirai na Kimi ga Suki~” – KAT-TUN : (439,736)
12. “Sakura no Shiori” – AKB48 : (390,957)
13. “This is Love” – SMAP : (350,322)
14. “Mata Kimi ni Koi Shiteru/Asia no Kaizoku” – Sakamoto Fuyumi : (311,215)
15. “LIFE~Me no mae no Mukou e~” – Kanjani 8 : (305,478)
16. “BREAK OUT!” – Tohoshinki : (289,412)
17. “Going!” – KAT-TUN : (282,901)
18. “Wonderful World!!” – Kanjani 8 : (275,891)
19. “Hatsukoi” – Fukuyama Masaharu : (269,765)
20. “CHANGE UR WORLD” – KAT-TUN : (254,150)2011 Yearly Single Ranking
01 – “Flying Get” – AKB48 : (1,587,229)
02 – “Everyday, Kachuusha” – AKB48 : (1,586,840)
03 – “Kaze wa Fuiteiru” – AKB48 : (1,418,888)
04 – “Ue Kara Mariko” – AKB48 : (1,198,864)
05 – “Sakura no Ki ni Narou” – AKB48 : (1,079,460)
06 – “Lotus” – Arashi : (625,935)
07 – “Meikyu Love Song” – Arashi : (614,131)
08 – “Maru-Maru-Mori -Mori” – Kaoru to Tomoki, Tama ni Mook. : (498,920)
09 – “Pareo wa Emerald” – SKE48 : (466,037)
10 – “Everybody Go” – Kis-My-Ft2 : (441,680)
11 – “Okie Dokie” – SKE48 : (434,307)
12 – “Let’s try again” – Team Amuse!! : (312,666)
13 – “Oh My God!” – NMB48 : (309,846)
14 – “Rising Sun/Itsuka Kitto…” – EXILE/EXILE ATSUSHI : (305,001)
15 – “OVER” – Hey! Say! JUMP : (297,781)
16 – “Why?(Keep Your Head Down)” – Tohoshinki : (285,051)
17 – “Banzai Venus” – SKE48 : (274,973)
18 – “Zetsumetsu Kurokami Shoujo” – NMB48 : (263,187)
19 – “T.W.L/Yellow Pansy Street” – Kanjani8 : (257,932)
20 – “Kazoku ni Narou Yo/fighting pose” – Fukuyama Masaharu : (255,572)2012 First Half Rankings
1. “Manatsu no Sounds good!” – AKB48 : (1,780,949)
2. “GIVE ME FIVE!” – AKB48 : (1,434,398)
3. “Wild At Heart” – Arashi : (644,899)
4. “Face Down” – Arashi : (601,467)
5. “Kataomoi Finally” – SKE48 : (592,681)
6. “Ai Shite Love Ru!” – SKE48 : (544,000)
7. “Your Eyes” – Arashi : (477,820)
8. “Nagiichi” – NMB48 : (433,421)
9. “Junjo U-19” – NMB48 : (376,302)
10. “We never give up!” – Kis-My-Ft2 : (309,103)
There is no variety at all. Do I think their music is what’s making them popular? Hell no. I don’t have any interest in Johnny’s but I always to try listen to 48 groups’ singles and they pretty much all suck. Like album filler song material. That’s a shame too because there are 48 songs that I absolutely adore but lately/for several years they all suck.
Regardless of if their music sucks or not why the hell is it just Johnny’s and AKB? That’s ridiculous to be honest and it goes to show how much these companies infiltrate the music scene. Again it’s not that I have anything against the idols but it’s fucking crazy that only they exist there. Almost no one has a chance to get popular now. Japan has gone idol crazy now and an artist or a group that is not that or famous already has very little chance of becoming popular. I certainly don’t hate AKB or Johnny’s their spots and it’s great for them but looking at this you can’t really say there is variety which is what Taku was saying. Plus with no variety comes no creativity. Chances are since the same people are working with these groups the music will be boring and uninspired. It’s not like they have to try anyway.
I do understand that what is good music is kind of hard to say. It’s subjective. I don’t think comparing Vivaldi to Passpo and saying one is better based on your preference works. They are two totally different categories of music and made differently. When you do that you fail in my opinion. Idol music isn’t classical music and doesn’t aim to be. I don’t think that just because something isn’t meant to be serious or isn’t complex that it classifies as bad. What’s best to do is compare them to themselves. How successful of a piece do I think this is in terms of it’s category? Have I heard other pieces that I would deem better? These are the kinds of things I consider. But I am not even sure if because a piece of music is bad that it’s unsuccessful. For example Pyoko Pyoko Ultra is a mess of a song and yet I still listen to it. So perhaps it can’t be that bad or unsuccessful if I listen to it and enjoy it.
In terms of musical categories it’s not right to compare in my opinion but when it comes to Japanese and Korean music I do. Both places have a distinct style and what works on one often doesn’t work in the other as we can see by 2NE1’s fail in Japan. I am not saying that one is better in terms of music because they are different styles. However I can certainly say that overall Kpop is better. I am comparing this in a global way. I am a foreigner and I look at it as what appeals to me and people around the world better from a marketing standpoint.
Jpop can’t hold a candle to Kpop. Now before you all kill me I love Jpop but I do acknowledge its faults. I am not blind to the fact that the idol scene is made up of mostly untalented teenagers.
Okay so I do acknowledge that some/lots of Kpop groups can’t sing. Like this:
That is bloody terrible. Then fans sing more on tune. However I think looking at the overall picture Kpop groups are way more solid.
And yes I know that most of these groups I’ve posted have years on some of the jpop groups. So to be fair here are some younger groups from Korea.
It doesn’t matter, whatever reason you can give me it’s undeniable that Korea has idols that are better at performing. It is certainly not because there are no talented dancers in Japan either. C-ute and Perfume are really good at dancing and Kozue is a phenomenal dancer. I watch niconico dancers all of the time and some of those people are extraordinary dancers. I have seriously seen cover groups that dance and perform better than AKB themselves.
It’s simply because in Japan talent doesn’t matter. Looks are more important. Jpop focuses on the girl more so as a product herself and they will get solo photobooks and do gravure shoots. In Korea they don’t tend to do this and if idols are on magazines it’s because they are endorsing something or modeling for a shoot. Obviously it’s the same as the girl being a product but I think that level of separation makes a difference. Idols in Korea are seen as artists first whereas I don’t think in Japan it matters just as long as people like the idols and they are cute and personable.
Of course looks do matter in Korea as well and there is bias towards certain companies but even so there’s a seriousness about being an idol which Japan lacks. I do think that artists over there tend to strive for perfection in all aspects that make an idol. It’s a matter of pride. They need to be pretty but they care about appearing to sing and dance well. Whether they do or not is a different story but I do think it’s expected of them and they will go to extreme lengths to get it whereas in Japan the number goal is to be young and kawaii. If you made a group that lip-synched every time and danced poorly they would get crucified in Korea. Hell a lot of people make MR Removed videos so you can see exactly who is singing and how well they do it. I don’t think it’s only anti fans doing it either to say how much a group sucks. If you are a fan of something you want them to strive hard, right? Korean groups do. They work hours and hours a day practicing for their stages so they can get it right. Even if some are lacking in skills they do it so much that they usually are pretty in synch with the others. That’s not right either but I prefer it to someone not caring about how well they perform and only wanting to be cute to satisfy people.
The other thing is accessibility. Japan hates everyone that is not Japan and doesn’t need your money. Korea doesn’t. Korea wants your money. I know I’d rather feel welcomed and wanted than an alienated freak but maybe that’s just me. Japanese companies(minus H!P they are actually doing something smart for once) are terrible. The best way to promote internationally is through the internet. Youtube is used by a lot of people and a great way to promote to your artists. Yet if I am lucky enough to get a full version of a PV(don’t even get me started on this because I get so pissed that I will start killing people)it’s low quality and yes that’s on the OFFICIAL channel. What the hell is that? There is no excuse. I’m pretty fucking sure that we’ve progressed enough where a HD quality video is not hard to do. I can make one on my phone ffs. The problem is not that they can’t make a HD but that they don’t want to share it to the internet community which is a dumb reasoning. You aren’t getting people to buy your singles by posting horrid quality PVs online. If someone doesn’t want to buy your single they won’t. It’s that simple. If they want to see a HD version, they’ll find it. I guarantee you that.
All Japanese companies are doing is deterring people from getting into their group. Korean companies will upload full HD videos for people to enjoy. They actually want people to watch their videos. They work hard on their videos and there is a standard. If some companies are uploading HD videos your group will look like an idiot uploading something in 480p. Low quality is a turn off for me and I am not watching that crap. If I’m really desperate sure I will but otherwise I’ll be browsing Korean videos when I’m in the mood to watch music videos. Japanese PVs don’t make me want to buy or support the artists at all. Although AKB does try and makes nice PVs most other groups are in a studio. It’s boring. At least if you are going to shoot in a box make it a expensive looking box to look like you have put a little bit of effort into it. The music video is what gets people interesting in buying the single or getting into the group.
YouTube is a great tool for promoting your group and doing so internationally. It confuses me why Japanese companies are saying no to gaining fans. Why would anyone be opposed to getting money? I thought that was the point of creating companies? I remember Bubble Pop got noticed really quickly by the youtube community and it got enough attention to make people check it out and get articles written about it. If people liked it enough they could have possibly became fans but I bet those people were just as disappointed as us that Hyuna is in a flop group of nugus and not solo. I would say that people checking out videos of artists they never knew happens a lot. People are browsing around YouTube and stumble upon something and they become a fan of the group. Or they see that it’s a top video and check it out. Either way every time someone does that there is potential to make a new fan. You should do whatever it takes to impress people and Japanese companies don’t.
It’s not only that but Korean companies as I’ve said before make me feel welcome. They still see me as a foreigner and I will I always be that but at least they tolerate me and try to please me in order to gain money. They are trying really, really hard. They often stream things now so foreigners can watch things(As opposed to me waking up at 3am to watch a stream with girl indie idols and region block. Fuck you Japan. Fuck you.)and some companies upload performances to their YouTube channels. Not only that but one of the music show programs is uploading every single performance that was performed on their music show on Youtube. IN HD. Ladies and gentlemen I present to you the best youtube channel ever. As well they are trying to improve their companies to help include foreigners around the world. Now there is much more English included so others can understand. At this point most companies are trying to translate and sub things so foreigners(and this includes Japanese people too) won’t be left out. I have the Sweet Muse dvd set from Kara that was translated by the company and that definitely made me by it because I’m not spending a good amount of my money on things I can’t understand to watch my idols blink and smile. I laugh when I think about Japanese companies doing it. They wouldn’t. This is another strike against them, not that they care.
As well the fan community is way better. Japanese people can’t do anything when it comes to sharing things(they can’t even copy things for personal use now smh), fancams or fanphotos. I will never be at a point in my life where I will be able to join a fanclub and stalk my idols so I am left out. However Korean fanclubs don’t make me feel like that. They always are taking photos and fancams and most sites share these with foreign fans and fan taken photos and videos are amazing and even better quality than the companies. I know that Shawols don’t fuck around when it comes to quality and their camera equipment probably cost as much as a house. Okay that’s exaggerating but they go all out on the equipment and could easily be a professional photographer with all of that. Plus they make stellar fan goods which are again probably better than the actual companies which they try to make available to foreign fans if they can.
I think one thing that was a fresh breath of air for me was that amount of female fans and younger people into Kpop. It’s not that hate guys or older ones(trust me, I really like them)but I feel like I can relate more to girls. I think when any fandom is extremely one way or the other it creeps me out to a extent although I do admit certain groups will have a gender they target. I guess where I like girl groups I have a tougher time in Jpop finding girls who feel the same but Kpop isn’t like that. There’s a mixture of fans and it comforts me in some strange way to see females yelling their lungs out at female groups and being even more boisterous than the guys. Why the hell is there female only meet and greets, shows or areas in concert halls in Japan? That is sketchy. Females should not be scared to be around a group of guys that much. I can’t fully enjoy a group if I know that their fans are creeps and it always makes me feel bad. If I applied this to appealing to foreigners I think Korea is definitely more appealing because old dudes can intimidate or seem creepy to some people.
Anyone who knows me even a little knows that I abhor Japanese packaging. I think jewel cases exist as some form of torment to the human species. Fortunately Korean companies tend to agree with me and they usually don’t use them nowadays. Even if Korean companies put out a cd with standard album packaging it’s like a miracle compared to the Japanese ones. It’s worth buying a Korean one for the photobook alone and Japanese singles or albums often don’t have one and if they do it’s usually only a few pages and a small size to fit the stupid jewel cases. Oh and by the way I hope you like spending up to four times more to get a Japanese cd of lesser quality. If you are going to make me pay for something at least make it worth my while. Can you imagine a C-ute album looking like this? I would die. I would caress it and love it and it would be amazing and I really want it and omg why does it exist because it would totally make my life.
So yeah in terms of marketing Japan is getting its ass kicked by Korea and it’s not surprising that even some Japanese people are jumping on the Kpop bandwagon. Taku Takahashi is absolutely correct with what he is saying and I don’t even know how people can say he isn’t. There are great Japanese groups and artists out there but I would that say most of the time they aren’t popular or mainstream. There is no variety any more at all and the more groups that AKB48 and Johnny’s churns out the more obvious this gets because they are popular and manage to climb the chart. I’ll admit that yes in Korea the big companies do have more power and their artists do place higher but overall I think the mainstream is fairly diverse and Korean companies wouldn’t dream of producing boring(key word is boring because Exo-M is flaw free) clones of their main group. Do I think he should be saying this on twitter? Fuck no. Japan is always ichiban. ALWAYS. You should never ever insult the great paradise that is Japan if you work there. It’s a bad idea all around and no good will come of him bashing the Japanese music industry but he can do whatever he wants and he most certainly isn’t wrong.
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So You Want to Be a Wota
Okay so an anon on my formspring asked if I could make like a general guide to wota, I guess. If you somehow thought I have ever been to a concert or a party with wota I haven’t anon. I’m not a social butterfly either. However I have learned a lot being a wota and I think I can put that into some sort of guide to help newer wota. If you are awkward I can’t help you there, it’s just the way you are. If this isn’t what you wanted I am sorry for failing you anon but I hope you at least can see that I tried and had the best intentions.
Being a wota
I think when you realize you are a wota it’s only natural to wonder if you are crazy. You spend a lot of your time stalking teenage girls and if you are anything like me I was never ever obsessed with something to that extent until I discovered Momusu which makes it even harder to accept. I had a hard time but I decided I wasn’t crazy. In my opinion crazy ones are obsessed to the point where it’s not healthy. When a wota feels like they own the girls that’s when they are crazy. I know when to pull back and take a step into reality. I can spend hours upon hours each day speaking about idols but really it’s about how you do it although I don’t deny that I am obsessed.
You do not own the girls. You do not deserve to see a girl more than others. You are not so and so’s biggest or only fan. You should not ruin events for others because of your need to see your favourite idol. It’s fine to fantasize about them being your friend, daughter, spouse or lover but you should understand it will never happen and that they don’t care about you or see you as anything more than a fan. You should never wish a girl any harm if she breaks her character and has a boyfriend. If you think you do then yeah you are crazy.
When you become a wota you don’t want to be one of those crazy jerks. What I define as a wota I want to be and a wota who I want to be around is a well adjusted wota that has basic social skills. You should be able to joke. A sense of humour is extremely important to me because people who take everything too seriously are annoying and getting worked up about someone’s opinions on a non-serious thing like idols is stupid.
If you have ever watched Hello! Party fancams(please don’t if you haven’t) or whatever it is like the most depressing thing ever and most of those people are useless and need help/alcohol because they can’t communicate. Those people are the worst and I don’t know how some of them didn’t run out the door because that was so awkward to watch and I can’t even begin to imagine how embarrassing it was to be there. Although I guess most wota are fucked up in some way which is why we do what we do. Still I wouldn’t hang out with losers who are super uptight and boring IRL. I would rather be by myself than deal with that. Okay so I was going to publish this before the Berryz thing but then personal issues got in the way and I felt bad slamming Hello Party. Maybe it was going to be different this time, right? I know that’s like saying maybe Sayumi will be a good singer one day but still I want to believe.
Man that place is the saddest place in the world. Fine if you go there and are happy but I’m not going to pretend like I can understand why a person could be happy there. Now again some of you probably have to think I have to go there but fuck no I don’t. I have been to many a party in my life and since I act like everyone’s psychologist I am good at reading people and situations. If I find it awkward from watching a video how awkward is it to actually be there?
So anyway I wasn’t going to watch it because I had a feeling it would be just as fail as previous years. But my friend linked me and I caved. A wota party sounds like a great idea in theory but it fails in actuality. Nevertheless I keep hoping that one time it will be less embarrassing but that never happens. Nope. It was the same old thing. 4 people dancing to idol dances(badly) and the rest of the people just watching in awe at the fact that some people weren’t afraid to draw attention to themselves and interact with others. In fact the most interesting part was looking at some girl’s ass and watching her freak out later because the rest of it was putting me to sleep. I’ve seen my grandma have a livelier party.
If you were there and had a good time, that’s great. I’m not going to take that away from you. I’m not saying people can’t enjoy it. I’m just saying it’s lame.
This has gotten off-topic, oop.
Dealing with being a wota IRL
I think the trouble with being a wota is it gets lonely. If you are a fan of Star Wars you can find a friend or maybe get someone into it. In fact with most hobbies you will be able to find someone who shares your interest in it. Chances are your IRL friends won’t give a shit about mediocre pop music sung by little girls. Plus not only that but most people can not understand why the hell you would choose to listen to a foreign group who speaks and sings in a language that you can’t understand. Even if they listen to operas sung in foreign languages for some reason they cannot accept that you like weird Japanese shit. Somehow it just doesn’t register to them that music is universal and that you don’t have to understand someone to know how their smile makes you feel.
I think after a while you just have to accept loneliness irl. Or not loneliness but feeling incomplete or unsatisfied. You might have friends irl but they don’t make you feel happy the way your online wota friends do. I have tried to change my friends when I was younger and that was a mistake. What I have realized is that even if you have similar interests with your friends and they are the biggest weeaboos it doesn’t mean they are wota. It’s the worst thing to try to change them. They are who they are and no matter how hard you try to change them it won’t work if they don’t want it. You would only be annoying your friends and getting yourself upset.
At the same time I’ve learned that it’s best not to treat idols like they are wrong and hide away the fact that you like them. I used to treat and of my goods like they were porn and hide them away. Okay so you do like something that most people don’t like and it is/appears to be highly sexual in nature but letting someone make you feel ashamed or that you should give up idols isn’t right. You are doing what makes you feel happy and if anyone harasses you a lot to give it up they don’t know you well enough and certainly don’t care about you. Now like I said previously I’m not saying you should flaunt your wota-ness. It takes a balance.
What’s best to do is not force your friends/whoever to like idols but not to hide that you like idols as well. If you have your iPod on and are listening to idol music and they ask what you are listening to you say what you are listening to. In any circumstance don’t feel bad or like you have to hide it and don’t let people make you feel bad. I’ve spent too long trying to hide who I was(poorly) for fear of rejection but if someone loves you they won’t reject you so I really, really stress this as I would have loved to hear this when I was younger and felt truly alone. You are who you are. Don’t change it. Even if you are feeling alone and alienated right I promise that someday you will meet someone who appreciates you just the way you are.
Meeting other wota/socializing with your own kind
Once you accepted that you are a wota and realize that IRL won’t bring friends(well in your case it might, idk)and you want to discuss your idols you’ll probably look for other wota. Just because they are wota doesn’t mean that you will get along with them though. I absolutely hate and am annoyed by quite a few and they probably feel the same about me. Anyway these are the type of people I deal with everyday:
arama/omona fans
If you here the words stan and flawless you better run the other way because you’ve just encountered one of these idiots. They act like teenagers and crave validation.Casual fans(not technically wota but they exist so I’ll include them)
The ones that like a group but don’t want to or don’t have the time to learn more about the group. They just want to listen to the music and stare at the pretty girls and have a life, not know every detail of the group.Connoisseurs of idols fans
These are the people who are more experienced in certain fields and over analyze those aspects in the idol community. Often times they are elitists because they believe they know better than every one else.want to or don’t have the time to learn more about the group. They just want to listen to the music and stare at the pretty girls and have a life, not know every detail of the group.Delusional fans
AKB is not sexual hurr durr. H!P is popular. Idols don’t date.Ex-H!P fans
I don’t know what the fuck to call these people because they are always flip-flopping. They seem to think you can only like one group at a time. First they are fans of H!P but then it sucks and then go over to the AKB fandom. They’ll constantly complain about H!P even though they aren’t fans of it any more until they reach a point where they pretend they don’t care. Anyway AKB is the best and so H!P doesn’t matter. Now that AKB is boring they seem to be coming back over to the H!P fandom and even like some of the 9th and 10th gen Momusu girls now!!! They were always a true H!P fan(well except for those few years where they were too busy stanning AKB and insulting H!P but they won’t admit that)and love H!P more than anything.Elitist fans
Oh hi, AKB stans. The type of people who will look down on you for not knowing every detail about a group or getting into a fandom later. If you don’t know of every girl’s existence you are dead to them. Oh and don’t dare call yourself a fan because you’re not.Know it all fans
Chances are they are newer fans or at least ignorant but they think they know it all. Insufferable and the most annoying in my opinion. The kind who’ll state wrong facts acting like they are right(they’re not) and then get mad when someone corrects them because they are always right no matter what. They have problems and can’t take criticism so they try to be perfect but instead they just look like an ass spewing falsities.New fans(also not technically wota but they exist so I’ll include them)
Probably don’t know the names of the girls and can’t tell them all apart because they look alike. Don’t know all of the songs and don’t understand events you reference because they really don’t know anything yet. They just know they like a particular group. Still most of these people are harmless. Because they haven’t had time to develop into what annoying type of wota they will be.Nice guy fans
They will do anything to make you believe they are a nice guy. I don’t know why. I think it’s because in the community females exist and so to be a nice guy they pretend they don’t like the girl idols like that. They will often refer to the idols as their friends or that they admire them but female wota don’t fall for that and we all know that’s bullshit especially if you run a tumblr where you solely post pictures of girls in bikinis. It’s creepier when you pretend that you’re asexual, trust me.Oshi fans
Only like one girl. If that girl leaves they will probably abandon the fandom and then complain about how they aren’t included in the fandom anymore.Pervert fans
In it for the ass. They like girls in bikinis. Probably won’t be able to tell you if a song is a new release or an old song because they don’t listen to the music much.
Again you aren’t always going to find a new awesome friend everyday and you’ll have to deal with a lot of shitheads like you do IRL but whatever you’re probably used to that. In my opinion the people that I’m really good friends with I didn’t just meet them in like a light went off in my head and we were bffs forever. No, that takes time. In fact the people that I’m good friends with often times were the ones who I thought I would not be good friends with. A lot of times they scared me actually because beforehand I admired them and was intimidated by them. You can be soulmates with someone but again it won’t happen right away. At first both of you will be awkward and unsure.
If you are going to any sort of anime convention to see idols I highly suggest that you avoid Hello Party/public get-togethers if you can. No one who is fun would be there. I know you want to meet people but that is not the way to go. At least if you are going there find someone decent and run away with them before you die of embarrassment.
What I would suggest is going on a site and asking who is going and finding friends from them. You’ll probably be awkward irl so of you know their true selves it’ll be better because you know eventually they’ll be that person. If you don’t then I think the best thing to do is to wear something Hello Project or whatever idol group you like(Keep in mind the context. If you are going to wear an AKB shirt to an event that is full of H!P fans who mostly hate AKB fans and AKB helped lead to H!P’s downfall that’s probably not a good idea. If you are stupid enough to do that you deserve what you get.) so people can look at you and see that you like idols. Most people who stan whoever will be just as lonely and sad as you. I bet that some will be screaming for attention and would love if you gave them it. So if you see someone like this just send them a compliment or bond through common interests “You like Haruka the best ?! I do too!” That way you can easily break the awkwardness and find out if you them or not.
Accepting that you are a wota
I’m just going to take a stab in the dark and say that most wota are social rejects. It’s probably not that hard to see. Or at least that we use idols to escape our shitty lives. I think that’s fine. For me it’s no different than watching Dancing with the Stars or whatever normal people are supposed to do. Humans have created so many great things that now we don’t need to spend many hours a day doing things that will keep us alive. We have free time. We have to do something with that free time. I choose to be a wota. I’ve been one for so many years now and it truly is the best thing in the world to me. I love everything about the idol world. It’s who I am and it took years for me not to be ashamed of it but I’m finally there. I’m not going to change myself to make others happy.
However if you’re not happy being a wota, you should change that. Sometimes you might like idols because they give you everything you want. If you want a girlfriend, they give you that. They can make you feel special and loved. I’m not saying it’s particularly bad because without idols I don’t know where I would be. I think though that if you are sad that you can’t accomplish whatever in life and mask it with idols, you should stop. You will never ever be happy with your life if you ignore and don’t fix the problems you have with it. Since idols are very healing there might come a point when you have a life and you don’t need them and I think that’s fine as well. This is so preachy lmao but I’ve met lots of people like this who have these problems. Basically whatever makes you happy, do it. If happiness to you is having a life, go get that life. And if mediocre pop music sung by little girls makes you happy then keep being a wota.
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idol love 